Episode 9: Daughterhood

In the words of our Managing Editor and Producer, Aïcha Martine Thiam

“Who am I? Who will I become?

“This is what we think we are asking ourselves, with every thought accorded to our mothers, with every quarrel fielded with them, with every loving instance we share, with every quiet moment of dissociation. Our mothers are our carbon copies, and every one of their acts and decisions come back to haunt us, often leading us to similar spaces, or else steering us away from what we hope to avoid.

“Who am I? Who will I become? The actual questions underneath those questions are slightly different, although no less profound: Who were you? Who did you become?

“Because indeed, we daughters often forget that we’ve only known our mothers for part of their lives. First and foremost, they were women, lovers, friends, breakers of hearts, daughters, addicts, sisters, survivors, aunts, teachers, flawed girls, artists, dreamers, an entire existence nestled in their hearts before we were ever thought of. But we are so used to perceiving them as our mothers that we tend to forget that: and that is where the mystery sets in.

“This mystery either turns to reverence in our eyes, or else it sours into resentment. The bond between mothers and daughters, for better or for worse, is symbiotic: they are, in many ways, the closest things to us. We think we know our mothers, on an almost organic level, would recognize them anywhere — only to look back and realize that we didn’t, in fact, understand them at all.

“In these next stories, four daughters lose and find their mothers, engage and disengage with them, learn and unlearn who these women are and who they were before they came along. These daughters, intentionally and unintentionally, look for meaning and identity in the women who gave them birth; because whether we like or barely tolerate them, whether we love or reject them entirely, whether they put us together fragment by careful fragment, or whether they undo us with the tug of an errant string, who they were tells us everything about who we will become.

“And so we keep prying underneath that mystery, hoping that it will make our own puzzles click into place, eventually.”

Act 1: “Embracing the Subjective,” by Susanna Barlow and read by Lannie Stabile. Published in The Nasiona, 29 September 2018.

Susanna Barlow does what is most difficult for writers: namely, she lets go of the certainty of truth. By recounting her complicated childhood and fundamentalist upbringing (along with the deception it necessitated), she nonetheless manages to ground herself in another form of authenticity.

Act 2: “Swallow,” written and read by Emma Faesi Hudelson. Published in The Nasiona, 29 December 2018.

Emma Faesi Hudelson takes us to a seminal day in her life: an afternoon of teenage drunkenness collapses into chaos, and her mother’s ensuing attitude to it changes the dynamic of their bond. This account is a haunting glimpse into the boundaries we test with our mothers and, conversely, into what our mothers inadvertently let us get away with. The consequences of their reaction—or lack thereof—often determine the way we bring them into the fold of our trauma going forward. It also paves the way for how we appraise the mistakes we made, the ones currently unfurling, and the ones to come.

Act 3: “Finding Jean Palmer,” by Hannah Huff and read by Anuja Ghimire. Published in The Nasiona, 7 February 2019.

Generations of mothers and daughters collide in this next piece, when Hannah Huff and her mother undertake a journey to find the grave of the former’s great-grandmother, on her grandmother’s birthday. The quest reveals itself to be somewhat baffling, testing the women’s bond and their faith in one another.

Act 4: “My Mother’s Suitcases,” by Jacqueline Doyle and read by Aïcha Martine Thiam. Published in The Nasiona, 10 February 2019.

Jacqueline Doyle juggles feelings of remorse and acrimony for her mother, during a strained phone conversation with her. This piece is an incisive examination of the ways mothers and daughters often engage in exchanges fraught with tension, exchanges that sometimes take on a more bittersweet connotation, with the benefit of retrospection and indulgence.

Produced by Julián Esteban Torres López and Aïcha Martine Thiam.

The Nasiona Podcast shares stories that explore the spectrum of human experience and glimpse into foreign worlds. We focus on stories based on facts, truth-seeking, human concerns, real events, and real people, with a personal touch. From liminal lives to the marginalized, and everything in between, we believe that the subjective can offer its own reality and reveal truths some facts can’t discover. Hosted, edited, and produced by Julián Esteban Torres López.

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